Ten Ways to Win the Trust of a Girl you are Dating

Growing up in an increasingly unsafe world, a girl is usually taught to be cautious in her dealings with men. So if you want to be let into her world, she first needs to feel safe and secure with you. Here are ten ways to win the trust of a girl and lay the foundations of a deeper relationship.

Suggest a date but don’t pressurize

If you have just made the acquaintance of a girl you would like to know better, ask if you can take her out sometime. However once you have taken the first step, lay off and give her time to think. Calling up the girl or mailing her again and again will not only make you seem pathetic and least likely to get a date but may even make her suspicious of your motives and back off.

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Let her choose the place

One of the standard security tips for girls dating a guy for the first few times is to arrange meetings at a public place. Once a girl agrees to go out with you, suggest a nice coffee shop in a public place. Better still, ask where she would want to go for the date. This will not only make her feel comfortable but secretly flattered to know that her preferences count a lot with you.
 

Start with small steps

Another way to win the trust of a girl you have just started dating is to take it slow. Instead of taking her out to a dinner and dance which would mean a long evening, why not first meet for a pizza or ice cream at your favorite hang-out. Keeping the date short and the mood casual will allow the girl just enough time to know whether she would like to meet you again. And giving her this space is essential if she is to decide to trust you in the longer run.


 

Be in tune with your emotions

Women find it easier to trust a guy who is sincere about how he feels and does not try hard to suppress his emotions. Suppose you have had a row with your boss and are upset about it. If you are able to admit your feelings sincerely before your girlfriend instead of bottling up your anger and picking on the motorist ahead of you, she will know you for the real person you are and appreciate your honesty. Not only that, this will also encourage her to express how she feels about you and accordingly come closer to you.
 

Express solidarity

One of the most effective ways to build trust with your girlfriend is to identify a common ground with her. For example if you are both out dancing and her high heels seem to make her uncomfortable, point out how your own new shoes are killing you and you wish you had broken them earlier. Firstly, this will lead to a good laugh but more importantly your girlfriend will actually find your lack of vanity refreshing and lead her to trust you more. Finally use the opportunity to head outdoors for some fresh air and get to know each other better.
 

Body language

You can also use appropriate body language to gain your girlfriend’s trust. Maintain eye contact when you are speaking to each other since a shifty gaze implies an insincere or an evasive nature. Also keep your hands steady on the table or on your knees and adopt a relaxed but smart body posture. Small gestures like a light touch on her back or arm will assure her that you are there to protect and care for her. While most women today can look after themselves, the hint that you are there in case she needs you will speak volumes about your trustworthiness.
 

Be considerate to others

While there are many ways to build trust when directly dealing with your girlfriend, be careful how you treat others in her presence. If she sees you fibbing to a co-worker about your whereabouts or cheating a waitress of her change, then she is sure to suspect that someday you may behave like a jerk with her too. This is because smart women know that the way a person treats others in less advantageous positions is an infallible indicator to their personality.
 

Be quick to apologize

It is only human nature to make a mistake and in a relationship there are bound to be times when you have goofed up nice and proper. So if you turned up an hour late for a date and forgot to call your girlfriend too, then apologize promptly as soon as you meet her. Refrain from offering excuses like your cell phone was out of coverage area or the traffic was bad. Worse still, don’t rattle off the times she has turned up late in the past. This is the time to say you’re sorry and truly so. Once she sees that you are sincere in your apologies, she may not only decide to believe you but appreciate the fact you have no ego issues in saying sorry.
 

Be responsible

This does not imply that you have to be accountable to your girlfriend  for everything you do in the relationship. This simply means that you should let her see  you taking charge of your own life and emotions and depend on your own resources to find your way forward. Once she sees you as a mature man who can handle his own problems, without looking for someone to blame them on, she is bound to place her trust in you and even seek your support in times of crisis in her own life.
 

Finally don’t forget her Mom’s birthday

Frivolous as this may sound, it actually implies that you keep in mind the little things that give joy to others. And this is certain to give her a sense of security in having chosen a person who will be caring, considerate and can be depended on to make her happy.