Why Women Don't Watch Porn?

Pornography is one of the most common ways men get a sexual high. To them it is a safe and rather cost-effective means of erotic gratification which is now widely and perpetually available, thanks to the internet. It is however an entirely different story for women – if they are not left nauseous by the extreme visuals, they are usually left cold. So if you have been unable to persuade your wife or girlfriend to watch porn with you or are merely puzzled at their negative attitude, here are a few reasons why women don’t porn.

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It is visual

Pornographic material – whether in the form of adult magazines, movies or websites – uses a visual medium to appeal to male fantasies. The sight of silicon-endowed women without clothing trying out impossible contortions and faking massive orgasms may be enough to blow away men but is unlikely to impress women. This is because men are more of visual creatures and an appeal to this sense is enough to turn them on. Women, on the other hand, prefer to see sexual images in a proper context which is why romantic films and sensual music are more appealing to them. Also other senses like touch and smell are equally if not more effective in arousing desire among women. Pornography clearly separates sex from emotions and even an emotional context, which is the main reason why women find it difficult to relate to it.

It is contrived

Yet another reason why women don’t watch porn is because they find it unnatural and artificial. Actresses with impossible physical dimensions and experimenting with ludicrous postures seem grotesque and ugly rather than attractive to women viewers. Also pornography entails an extreme kind of sexual behavior by the participants. What is shown on the screen is not actual sex – it is merely a paid and rehearsed performance by two people who are after all actors. Women viewers feel it is impossible and, down the line, illogical to replicate such visuals and acts in their own relationship. Not incorrectly, they recognize that like it is foolish to get depressed over the misfortunes of a character in a movie or novel, identifying too closely with the actions in a pornographic material and worse trying to duplicate it in a relationship can cause nothing but problems.

Presence of another woman

Since most pornography caters to male fantasies, such movies or visuals feature female performers more often than male ones. The sight of naked writhing female bodies being avidly watched by her partner is enough to turn any woman off. This is because for most women, sex and love are closely entwined; so the fact that a man enjoys looking at images of another – naked – woman is enough to imply that he is attracted to the actress as well. This may seem as yet another evidence of crazy female logic but then men are more easily able to differentiate sexual and emotional involvement as compared to women. This is why your wife or girlfriend may be less than enthusiastic when you suggest watching a porn video in order to spice up an intimate night. She may feel that you are less than satisfied with her and thus need the aid of another female’s visuals in order to be sexually aroused.

It is degrading

Pornographic material - whether in the form of adult magazines, web content or explicit CDs - fuels a distorted version of sex in which female sexuality exists solely to serve men's needs. More often than not, the female performer is the willing object of all kinds of outrageous, unnatural and even sadistic male sexual behavior. Even though such warped depiction of sex has always existed alongside more equitable sexual behavior, it is rapidly becoming standardized by the large-scale use of pornography and is routinely reinforced to its viewers across class, race and age groups. Indeed, law enforcement agencies as well as social scientists see increased levels of violence, particularly sexual violence, against women and children as one of the many consequences of the ubiquitousness of internet porn. Even in a regular relationship, if a man views too much porn, his girlfriend or wife is likely to believe that the only things that matter to him are sex, sexual control over the female partner and orgasmic release. Other aspects of physical intimacy like caressing, sensitivity and gentleness which women look forward to during sex are significantly lacking in pornographic materials.

It is slutty

One of the main reasons why men enjoy watching porn is because it shows actresses doing things their real-life partners would never dream of agreeing to do. It is practically impossible for an average woman to identify with the image of the actress engaging in sexually grotesque acts with many men at the same time. As product of society, each individual is conditioned to behave in a certain way and in fact women have always been warned of the dangerous consequences of being too sexually aggressive and experimental. Since average women have always been conditioned to behave “properly”, anything as extreme as pornography is bound to come off as ugly and sluttish to regular women and thus impossible to relate to. And what women cannot relate to personally, they are unlikely to enjoy watching.