Should you Give a Girl Flowers after the First Date?

Despite all the advances of modern communication, some traditional messages never change in their symbolic importance. Giving flowers to a girl, for instance. This still remains one of the sweetest gestures to let somebody know that you are thinking of her. and the best part is that the practice can be tailored to suit a wide variety of occasions – to greet her on a birthday, to cheer her when she is feeling low, to congratulate her on a promotion, to express your love on a romantic occasion like an anniversary and even to offer your condolences in case of an unhappy incident. However one of the questions which seem to trouble guys a lot is the right time to give flowers to a girl you have recently met and if it is too soon to give them after a first date.

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Dating etiquette is primarily dictated by conventions and values of the period; however in recent times, the ways of social interaction appear to have been changing so frequently that it is difficult to determine on an absolute basis what you should and should not do in a relationship. However generally speaking, giving a girl flowers right after your first date is considered too soon. First dates are about starting to know each other – you have just begun to find out what your partner likes and doesn’t. So as yet you don’t know all about her preferences in romantic gestures and favorites in flowers. Above all you cannot even be sure if the girl you just went out with would really like to see you again. If she has not made up her mind about you as yet, arriving with an exotic bouquet at her doorstep would put her in an awkward situation or worse seem to suggest that you are trying to push her into a relationship. Conventionally, giving a girl flowers is considered as an unambiguous expression of romantic love and a first date is usually too early to determine if you and/or she wants to head that way.



However in the end, the best person to judge the situation is you. Only you know whether you really hit off with each other on the first date and if so, by all means go ahead and buy a nice bouquet of flowers for your girl. Apart from signaling your interest in getting to know her better, sending flowers after a first date can show your date how much you enjoyed the experience. Once you have decided to send flowers to her, do so within a couple of days of the date when the outing is fresh in the person's mind.

Next you need to decide what kind of flowers would be most appropriate to give a girl you have just started dating. The safest type of flower to send a person after the first date is a basic bouquet. Try to avoid red roses which might be interpreted as too common or too romantic. Tulips, pink roses, carnations, lilies, orchids and daisies are all safe choices since they express affection without being overtly romantic. While you might be raring to splurge on large bouquets for your new-found love, stay away from anything very elaborate or fussy. You don't want to send anything too serious that looks like you're rushing into a relationship.

These days unusual blooms are becoming quite popular with couples who like to look beyond traditional bouquets. So if your date has mentioned that she likes creative gifts or if you feel she has unusual tastes, explore some interesting alternatives. A single tiger lily matched with a small inexpensive charm for instance could make a striking yet beautiful arrangement. In fact if you possess some skills in flower arrangement, a hand-made arrangement would signify creativity and caring. Containers like teapots and jars work well to hold the flowers apart from the usual vases. However these types of arrangements might require you to drop them off personally or have them delivered by a friend. Also remember that while you might mention you constructed the arrangement, avoid making a big deal of it or you might come off as a braggart. Also before you go all out to give free reign to your imagination, remember that not everyone might shares new and eclectic ideas in beauty.

Then again you need to settle whether it would be right to take the flowers yourself or have them delivered. If you are still getting to know each other, as is most likely after a first date, the best way would be to have the flowers delivered to your girl. Other than being a safe option, the gesture adds to the mystique of receiving a bouquet from an admirer. On the other hand many women prefer to receive flowers personally from a boyfriend or a lover but for that you need to be certain that you and your girl are thinking on the same lines.

Finally all that remains is to decide is where to have the flowers delivered. While the workplace might seem a fun idea, it would be better to avoid bringing/sending flowers there until you are sure she would be love to be surprised before her co-workers. Moreover some workplaces prefer that their employees do not receive personal deliveries. For the same reason also try and avoid sending flowers to schools and educational institutions. The most reasonable place to send flowers to your date is perhaps her home which is also natural choice if you are planning on giving them to her yourself.